Building Your Self Confidence

A lot can be achieved by just believing in yourself. I would say that I got my present job right now (and previous ones) because I believed in myself. Same thing applies in school life. A man with skills goes a long way but a man with skills and self confidence goes all the way.

Self confidence is the difference between feeling unbeatable and feeling scared. The way you look yourself has a big impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is that you’ll succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these tips you can get the mental edge to reach your potential.

Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way you feel about yourself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and grooming frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being aware of the current styles.

Walk Faster

One of the easiest way to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking faster will make you look and feel more important.

Good Posture

People with slumped shoulders and slow movements show a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others.

Be thankful

Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be thankful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive moments. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and meetings, people usually sit at the back of the room. Many people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we think. In fact most people are dealing with the same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

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